I think I need to do the same, start giving myself the self respect and stop basing it on my h assessments of me. Particularly in a long term relationship. Right now some days I just want to crawl under a rock. I hope that eventually you can look back on your marriage and not look at it as wasted time. Now shes pregnant (its mine) and I dont really have a choice. Sound familiar? Make sure to schedule some me time into your week to stay sane and avoid resentment. Worse, I let others judge that for me. I brought it up in marriage counseling and the counselor said if he was bored it was because he was boring. If anyone thinks they were lured, or tricked, or coerced, or anything else into cheating on your spouse then there is an issue. And not much of it was very good at all. Whether she values what she has or not I know her friends and coworkers are jealous when they stair at me like a piece of meat-haha. Since monogamy is an ongoing choice, its something that has to be inspired over the long term. I have begun traveling without him because he wont go. Peace of trash she is, I see even more with that comment she made how she wanted my children, as well as my h, I cam only imagine the bad things she told my h to get him on her side with that idea, having him think I was a terrible mother as well as wife. Also when a person complains about being bored they are often bored with themselves not their marriages or spouses. How profound. Gradually, he's changed, and his hygiene has gotten worse and worse. My husband actually says he has a NEW and DEEPER appreciation of not only me and our marriage, but our family as well. It can take months for them to grasp the idea that they and they alone are responsible for the choices they made and the ensuing crap storm that resulted. He never raises his voice. Do you often think, my husband doesn t like spending time with my family and me? Below, psychologists and marriage therapists offer 7 common signs that a spouse may be growing restless in a relationship. Tell them, openly and honestly, how important travel is to you. If your husband is spending more time with friends, at work, or on his hobbies, it might be because hes found someone new to spend his time with. Ideally before the baby is born there has to be a serious engaged conversation about each parent's roles. Now he only changes underwear and showers once a week. He confesses that his testimony and knowledge of the gospel was minimal before a harrowing climb on Denali, the highest peak in North America, forced him to put his new faith to the test. So as a reward for trying to keep my marriage together I get to work harder than ever on our relationship while my character and personality is constantly on trial. Yet he is still here, just as is your h. Why couldnt he show me that he could drop her, when I was feeling good about myself. If anything, it is a great opportunity to spend quality time with single friends. I only vent here. I agree that, for me, its my commitment to God, first and foremost. I have to keep reminding myself that he needs time to adjust to the fact that life has changed. It had an article about trauma recovery that said basically you are healed when you can review the trauma in a non emotional way. Prior to having children, we had an active social life. And he had better think about how to mentally gird himself and decide how to react calmly to it. Your email address will not be published. I cant go on like this forever. Exercise grace, this is exactly the kind of thing I was trying to get through to Eyes Opened about. The betrayed spouses often like to place more blame on the OW. Notify me of followup comments via e-mail. One thing I have done in the past is move along too quickly, so I end up in Crap again. So, if your husband is always working on projects around the house or taking care of the kids, he may be trying to show you how much he cares. I finally found my balls and filed for divorce. I say. My husband doesn t want to spend time with me; it hurts. We've been married for almost 30 years and have 2 children, aged 16 and 18. Yes I did everything to make his life comfortable not so much now. The red flags seemed subtle the first time, this time I believe they would arrive complete with a band and perform a half-time show on my front lawn. But I know one thing I wont go through this again kids or not Im better than that and dont deserve it. Wishing you all the best ! Someday shell wake up. I had almost no confidence left by the time I discovered her cheating. My dumb self will tag along because "it's at least something". Here, here! They work, because one of my girlfriend's husband was having trouble getting hard and he ordered one.. She is so proud of . Anonymous. unless he goes to work doesnt want to go out at all but will sometimes . He often jokes about leaving his wife. he had an emotional affair a few years ago and I have had a hard time forgiving him but I do not let him know this. I had a saying Lose the battle, win the war. Meaning the final outcome is in your favor cause you are done with them ! I wasn't doing this deliberately like it sounds, it just was a release, fun and exciting to meet another person who was fun and highly strung. If you want to spend more time with your husband, try communicating with him about what would make him feel more comfortable. It doesn't appear in any feeds, and anyone with a direct link to it will see a message like this one. But if you strongly believe: My husband doesn t like spending time with my family and me, it might not be personal. Perhaps in the UK or somewhere you have been before. Time will tell. I loved snowboarding, my friends, my dogs, and of course, travel. Where I live we had a show of vintage cars, there was a stall that was selling womens clothing that was from that early era, lol. To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account. I am tired of the many years of being his personal assistant, director, PR person, party planner, date night organizer, relational health coach, spiritual leader and the bad guy parent. If I had listened to my gut and gone with my instinct, I could have stopped this all much much sooner. Our marriage for many years was all about our kids and their activities, sports, etc. Now I am thinking of calling it quitsnever thought I would feel this way..worked so hard to keep my marriage together.but Ive been at this now for 4 years and still not sure if one day he is going to come home and say he is leaving. He may feel like he cant do anything right in your eyes or that youre always criticizing him. Blah blah blah. Linda claims it was the other two women that were doing all of the complaining (uh, huh) and the core complaints were that their husbands never wanted to do anything and were basically boring stick-in-the-muds. And Im but judging her about this, Im just commenting on it. 6. My other half knows this, but still, does not take any of the responsibility on. In the midst of the fog, they can do no wrong, probably a fair way out of the fog too, before things start showing themselves for what it really was. Of course, you work. Leaving Her Alone One of the quickest ways to destroy your marriage is to leave your wife alone. First, to the antisocial spouse (or person whose wife is saying "My husband has no friends or hobbies,") you might not think this is a big problem. Ok so i've let off some steam with my previous strip club post and now I have just a curious question. Maybe he just shows his affection in other ways? We were trying to understand how they could have gotten to this place and hypothesized what could possibly be going on in their relationships, and why. I was busting my ass and kissing hers at the same timeeven after the magnitude of her betrayal. Im guilty of this some what, but all cheaters will have asob story regarding why they cheat. Any infractions of this rule will result in a ban. A Comprehensive Guide to 'Vanderpump Rules' Hookups Over the Years. Create an account to follow your favorite communities and start taking part in conversations. He wont go anywhere! But living with a depressed person takes the life out of you. It was certainly different from our normal family life. but thats not our problem. So his solution might be to avoid you, to not spend time around you. People value what they invest in as opposed to what they are not invested in. On the other hand, Linda read some book ( I think by Suzanne Somers) that claimed much of the fuddy-duddyness in men stems from a lack of testosterone. Arent all of you lucky:). But you already know that, lol. Admitting that, its natural if you have those sentiments and are furious at him. During a dinner with Lala and the "You're Gonna Love Me" podcast host, 36, Raquel admitted that she liked Tom, 40, but . This includes the time during and for months after, the affair. Egos dont care what the external package looks like. And the selfish person cheating is fooling themselves and their affair partner to justify what they are doing. My husbands job was mainly to just show up and participate. I think Ive done my share. Its not just you and him against the world. Take time to let the responses settle in, and strive not to be defensive," she says. My husband said you dont know what was going on his life, what he was dealing with, etc. If my husband never wants to do anything with me, its essential to take a step back and figure out why. If you feel like. I work full time and my husband has been retired for 10 years. Kind of hard though. What this means for me is If he wants to pick an argument or indulge in another round of self pity, I dont have to join in. Was he responsible for me cheating on him? The most irksome part of this entire process is that it is completely backward from what it should be. If that makes sense. No referencing hateful subreddits and/or their rhetoric. So, what gives, lol? But where is my security? True. Talk to him about how youre feeling and see if theres anything you can do to help relieve some of his stress. I have one on my free resource page. Its better that way. Then I feel hurt when he doesnt. Its also extremely exhausting and expensive. I do need to add it wasn't my finest moment, and I'm not proud of this. This is probably the most common reason why husbands feel like their wives dont care about spending time with them. While you may feel like youre being neglected, its important to remember that this period wont last forever. The cheating spouse still seems to be calling the shots. If you are struggling to find a boyfriend OR can't get quality men to commit to you then read this post to find out why. Thats like saying its ok for me to walk into a bank and steal money if the security guard isnt looking. I told him what I can look on his desk. An issue my husband never wants to do anything with me could also mean that hes an introvert and he just needs some time alone to recharge. In answer to. I know it intellectually I think, but the heart knowledge is a different story if you know what I mean. It is now scheduled for this Thursday . I dont think we should ever let ourselves fall into the boredom trap either, but I am so tired (as the betrayed spouse) of feeling like I need to become a one woman circus to keep the interest going. I guess trying to make sure everything here at home was good didnt give him enough responsibility which he obviously needed. Five Lifestyle Rituals to Inspire Monogamy. I have only ever really seen him upset/sad once in 13 years. That said, anyone who knows my husband and I would say that HE is the boring one; ie, wants to stay home, etc. I realized that I was not bored because I was always giving to our marriage and familyshe was the taker which meant she was always waiting for something to be given to her or to happen for her. He has become a public figure, and the repercussions are potentially enormous. Two key things: our passion and our principles. I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year and we have a 8 week old daughter together. He still waits for my direction and Ive stopped doing all I did because he wont put any responsibility onto himself. But its good to know that Im not alone in feeling this way. It's easier than figuring out how to bring something up. And he needs to answer those questions. Joke advice or advice that is conspiratorial or just plain terrible will be removed, and users my be subject to a ban. As a result, I feel unimportant, invisible, and alone. What to do if my husband never wants to do anything with me because of mental illness? Donot tell him your every move. Now I have more expectations. For example, if you dont share his love for football, he may feel like it would be a waste of time. Last night my husband and sister got into a somewhat heated discussion when she brought up a friend from our hometown that got caught cheating. We saw therapists through the years but nothing changed. If your husband is cheating on you, its crucial to confront him and figure out what to do next. What a crock! Having him believe something that wasnt true. She does not know our situation. I am sure that when most of us look back they realize how little effort the cheater put into any of those things prior and during the affair. You went into survival mode and I think a lot of cheaters do. People value what they invest in as opposed to what they are not invested in.. My husband never wants to hang out and just spend time with me but then gets overly butthurt when we go more than a couple days without having sex. and we started dating. On the contrary, everyone needs quality time with their loved ones. Now he puts extra hours at work and prefers to spend time with his friends. In fact, that is one of the explanations we have for one our friends. Sorry, this post was deleted by the person who originally posted it. I say grow up, be bored and count yourself lucky you have the luxury to be bored. Pisses me off too. We'd like to take this time to remind users that: We do not allow any type of am I the asshole? if we do go to a wedding as it is an obligation he will sit and not speak to anyone and always wont to leave early. At least mine was, for a while. She wants me to take the lead with planning nights out, hikes, weekend trips, etc. Unless I wanted to peruse thing it would have cost me between 15,000-20,000. Talking to one other and making an effort is key to a long-lasting relationship. everything else is just circumstantial, and an excuse. or situations/content involving minors, Any sort of namecalling, insults,etc will result in the comment being removed and the user being banned. Those were the words that one of our friends told Linda recently. This is separate from and at times in spite of, others around me. If I interrupt the tv he gets annoyed. Well some days will be poorer (and not just in money). In contrast my H is in the worst shape hes ever been and for the first time I see him slightly worried about how he compares to the men I must see at the gym. She was not invested like I was. My major flaw is that Im fat. It sucks. Eg I gained weight after the birth of my child, I admit. I am asking him to step up into a role he has really never (in 26 years of marriage) had to fulfill. It runs in his family and he has suffered with it and sleep disorder for years. Im doing everything I can to bring the romance and passion back to our marriage while she acts miserable every day. Absolutely NOT ! If you suspect this is the case, youll need to have a serious conversation about whats going on and how its affecting your relationship. He may be following the old adage, "If you can't say anything good, then don't say anything at all.". He probably lies to his wife all the time telling her he's going to take her places and then never follows through. Possibility # 2: Your husband won't talk because he doesn't like conflict (the avoiding pain motive) Your husband may be upset at you for something, but not want to say anything about it for fear that it will cause conflict. He has not worked in almost a year because it has gotten worse. You need to stop fearing an argument, You need to communicate the issues that are going on and ask him why he thinks using depression to not do things you don't want to do. 21 [S4A] Feminize Me and Show Me Why I Should Never Go Back (Dahlonega, GA) 1 / 4. After the girls were born, our social life was done as a family (due to lack of babysitters). I try to engage him and put energy into our relationship and it helps for a few days then he is back to doing nothing. It's good for your health and can be a nice ritual for discussing your plans for the day. Big surprise. That is exactly what my husband did and he admits it. I dont really think badly of my husband. Routine can also lead to emotional isolation in marriage. I hope its not too late. The 10 signs that your husband is not happy in your marriage 1. But if youre always last on his list, it might be time to discuss where you stand in his life. If someone's lack of response has become a. NO MATTER WHAT THE CIRCUMSTANCES. They are NOT as unhappy as they profess themselves to be. He shaves maybe once a week, at most. If you can make him feel appreciated, hell spend time with you. Yup, I no longer want all the responsibility of doing it all, anymore. I know the signs now, I know his tells when something is up. No matter what the level of infidelity ( from daydreaming about an ex to full blown adultery) the one constant factor in cheaters is that they chose to dishonor their commitment while people who did not cheat honored it. Do you find yourself constantly needing your husbands attention? At least you are trying. My dr had wanted me to start being on medication for depression but had also said things would be better if your h would change his attitude and start helping you, because this is why you are so depressed. Dear sister, yes, these feelings haunt me daily. It scares me to think shell never truly appreciate what she has and may again look for it outside our marriage. This doesn't stop my husband going back to the UK for shooting trips, even though he knows that I am not at all pleased. No exceptions. What do you do when your spouse doesnt want to spend any free time with you? One of the main signs of a disrespectful husband is when he never ever asks your opinion on anything. I deserved better. Or well, our marriage had really drifted apart and I knew we were very disconnected. Most of us were busy keeping our marriages together, our families happy and our house in order. Your story proves my point. What a shame eg, they are not going to see it. Question: My husband will not let me out of the house without him. Some of the big realizations I have had in this post affair phase are: a. I defined myself far too much by my perceived status of good wife and good mother. He had ti see her because it made her feel better, then when that wasnt working anymore, lets bring mummy dearest over from overseas to help her with her attempts at getting my h away from me. 20/04/2015 at 11:50 am. Yes! I however am back to working full time at our business since he practically decimated it with his affair partner working there so I dont have much time or inclination to be the perfect homemaker he used to be married to. He's in good form from the minute he wakes up (unlike me). While I will own my mistakes, own what I need to work on in MY life and own how I can communicate better, etc to improve my marriage, I am sick to death of the prevalent societal idea that people cheat because something is lacking at home. You can be bored, stressed, depressed, or a whole host of other emotions on ANY given day. Even if you're not trying to ignore him, busyness can create an emotional barrier. Doug, Its his fault for not paying enough attention. Im exhausted and burned out. Ive never really figured out how to process my first marriage and all it involved. Discover the 10 Most Important Lessons about Surviving Infidelity, Most of the Time My Husband Doesnt Want to do Sh*t, No Such Thing As TMI The Importance of Full Disclosure After You Have Had an Affair, Affair Recovery Moving On After Infidelity, Taking Inventory: A New Approach to the New Year & A Betrayed Spouses Bill of Rights, Follow our journey as we save our marriage after an emotional affair, Terms of Service/Privacy Policy/Affiliate Disclosure. Eg, its funny you commented about being a step ford wife, lol. I know my h has always been a strong capable man, full of honor, self respect and pride, it definately would not have been an easy road seeing someone else staring at you in the mirror. Wow I have been coming here for years. It can be a major weakness to a marriage. Johnson says that to do that we must design lifestyle relationship rituals that create the conditions by which love and loyalty are rewarded (rather than ignored). It makes me sick the lengths she went to, and I truly believe it was her manipulation, making him feel guilty for him being home with his family. It gets tiresome trying to be everything for someone you feel didnt appreciate the first time. ALL advice given must be good, ethical advice. . Read More All related (100+) Sort Recommended JMMendez Now he is going away on a friend's five-day stag trip. See he would watch me falling and he would hold his hand out to her to help her up. When you think about it, it makes sense. Dear The HPV Question, First, I want to make sure you still have HPV. Doug, I know you were joking but knowing Linda and what you guys have learned through hard experience, I am willing to bet she did very, very little husband bashing. It was a little thing, but it allowed you to keep up to date with the important (and, yes, sometimes the not so important) goings on in each other's lives. She was not invested like I was. What are your thoughts on Johnsons idea that the two main factors that keep us monogamous are passion and principles? Oh, one more thing. If your spouse is dealing with depression or anxiety, they may not want to do anything, let alone spend time with you and your family. He shops with me for groceries or they dont get bought. Then he would call her because ohh it made her feel better, the. The problem isn't your job. Problems arise when you leave the house early, barely speaking to or connecting with your wife before you dash out the door. Additionally, try not to nitpick everything that he does wrong. What we cannot give advice on: rants, unsolicited advice, medical conditions/advice, mental illness, letters to an ex, "body counts" or number of sexual partners, legal problems, financial problems, situations involving minors, and/or abuse (violence, sexual, emotional etc). It was his stress and depression and need for escape. Like threatening to kill my cats, destroying my property, etc. Its a vicious cycle I see repeated on many blogs. Not until later on the drive home did I learn what the gals were chatting about. Of course, this doesnt mean that you should never spend time with your spouse. there was a time he was the life of the party and now.I believe he is depressed and has seen his doctor and neurologists for his headaches but no one has told him he may suffer from depression . Something along the lines of, well if he was happy he wouldnt be with me. My first husband seemedin control, too. I saw something somewhere that research indicates that 65% or more of extramarital affairs can be directly attributed to boredom. You are so VERY right. HA. I was tiresome and costing me a fortune! This includes, but is not limited to, referring to people as alpha/beta, calling yourself or users "friend-zoned", referring to people as Chads, Tyrones, or Staceys, pick-me's, or pornsick. I think your awesome, full of integrity and heart! Friends disappear and you can't go anywhere. I busted my ass for 2 years afterward trying to keep her stimulated with things to do, trips, vacations, outingswhatever. You might be unwittingly putting distance between yourself and your partner by being too busy. I am a spontaneous, energetic, social and active person. Eg, unfortunately with my h cousin it, she thought it was and when it looked like she could use it she threw herself at him like a bitch on heat. Ugh. These are the games she played, along with you promised me thus, you promised me that, boo hoo. Me too. Make your moments together count. I know now we got pregnant way too early after the affair becuse Im obviously still struggling in the aftermath. If your husband used to spend a lot of time with you and now you complain: my husband never wants to do anything with me, it can be confusing and hurtful. This came to our email by mistake. So Im so happy for you that you have your children. This comment does not necessarily mean your post violates any rules. If this is a recent development, you may be wondering what went wrong and how to fix it. Plan a weekly date night where you go out to dinner or see a movie, Go on weekend trips together even if its just for a few hours, Make time for a weekly game night or hobby night, Exercise together this can be anything from going for a walk to playing tennis. He should be talking with the baby if not reading to baby at least once a week is not asking much. If you want to create and sustain a lifetime of monogamy, then you must also know how to renew passion, inspire desire and sustain a lifetime of commitment.. I have found that this site has been so helpful to me, it is just incredible. That obviously will take a while. My husband doesn t want to spend time with me, is it true? Instead, he could simply be showing his love by other gestures. My husband I really never really used to go anywhere much due to work so we never really thought a time share would benefit us. Don't suppress your desire and build up resentment. She is a safer target to vent my rage towards. Oh bless you it really does sound very similar.. to the poster who suggested getting others involved, without going into too much detail I did just that. I tried to strike a balance and move the conversation in a different direction. I feel like Im slowly being snuffed out. She said the same thing about being bored and finding excitement. If that something is lacking so severely than they would simply LEAVE. My 10 year old son's personality is that he does not want to leave the house to do go stuff. No matter how much our friends love each other and they do they are not immune to boredom. You have your sons hearts, love, support, and respect. I get upset just thinking about it. All for some worthless, bunny boiling slut. Of course that was a trigger for me, and I told him that it was nice that he was focusing on how the whole thing made HIM feel, and totally ignored how gut wrenching it was for ME as she sat there describing a college boyfriend who cheated on her, and went on at length about how I have no idea the pain, the agony, the etc etcof being cheated on. I can see how my h would prefer to forget. My h would tell me, he didnt want her on medication, in the next breathe he would tell me to go take medication. This is bonding time. 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