Think about this. idk how to both handle my parents and be safe around them. skyrocketing, deadbeat fathers, and in general a breakdown in our moral and A possible promiscuous woman is a very valid concern for a man potentially wanting her as a girl friend or more. Also, as far as men losing their home, assets, and children, the flip side of double standards is that it ends up being the mothers responsibility to care for their children and because women either didnt make the same amount during the marriage or she was a stay at home Mom, the assets built during the marriage end up being awarded to her. You make an excellent point when you speak on how many women have adopted this way of thinking. I can go on for days about this. Nothing sums it up better, I wish I could sit down and heave beer with you. You are right about the emotional attachment. The higher sexual partners has a correlation but I do not believe it is truly the cause. Tell her your own. It should be with the right partner, not with just some random Joe you meet at the pub. Burn it. "If you are prepared to be the man she needs and you have a genuine connection with her, then all that other stuff really does not matter." Shit if u cant count your partners on both hands then u have a problem. if you're concerned about self-destructive behavior, you need to actually understand what that is and isn't before you start judging people. Brothers like you are the reason so many women act like men these days. Stefan probably didnt realize this was true while he was writing the article or even now. Any person with an abnormally high or indiscriminate number of partners either values sex too micah (must have it, with whoevers around) or too little (sharing one of lifes most intimate moments with any ol body). It took some time to realize I had to get myself together and I did even though at times its truly a hard task to look at myself in the mirror and thinking that anyone could love me I am still here and trying to do my best. As soon as the relationship gets rocky, know them well and knew it wasnt going to be a relationship. Just like that song in the 70s that said, so many men so little time how can they Choose. you certainly would be a fool to expect that it wouldnt have You understand, but at the same time, cant do anything to change I have seen women who had only slept with one man end up being loose while in a relationship. and some are looser on the how-many-is-to-many question. Keep hanging on to your religious/ sociopolitical dogma all you want, but that doesnt confront the facts against your case And like Nietzsche always said, Some people dont want to hear the truth, because they dont want their illusions destroyed.. So it is hilarious when it is a bad thing to judge someone for something thought to be bad but dont make such a big fuss about it when someone is being JUDGED for doing something good. Would you rather have a car with ONE OWNER, who took care of it. So again it isnt the number, it is how they behave today and if they have addressed any issues from the past that can linger and hurt them and the person they enter into a relationship with. I deserve better, and so would my children. The source material is quite easy to find. Even just changing the language will give different search results. There can be comparison issues, less patience due to what they have experienced previously, and a bunch of other stuff I will address in a future post. And Im about to have a daughter. After all who wants to get busted for being less-than-perfect when we see HIM face to face? Good luck!! I dont think u r being objective. Or do we grow up and understand that who someone was in their past is not always who they are in the present. Funny how the women who think number shouldnt matter have all slept with a lot of people. I lost my virginity to a girl who had been with lots of guys before me. On March 12, 2003, 15-year-old Elizabeth Smart was found safe nine months after being abducted from her family's home in Salt Lake City, Utah. Its a selfish attempt to keep a woman to yourself even if you dont have feelings for her, you want her to keep her pussy tight. Also women (and some men) get bored quickly these days. I understand where you are coming from but we do not agree on this topic. Where to begin I agree I have learned it had more to do with how I was raised,I am a better person today. Just b/c those were accpetable practices in the past doesnt mean we as a society have to continue to adhere to them and perpetuate their message. It is the exact reason why there are tv shows depicting men on how to pick up women, but there is no show where women can pick men, because there is no science to it, women only have to spread their legs to get it. Just dont call the guy u miss out on him immature or insecure She has been open about her past, but not completely, shes just gives all the ideal answers youd expect if someone didnt want to hurt your feelings. The point of this post is that I'm absolutely terrified of getting into a relationship with a slut (don't mean to be harsh but that is just what she is) despite liking this girl a lot. Men are sure as hell trying to do it now! She is a great woman and I am a great man. I, of course, agree that other factors contribute to failed marriage. Hey Natasha : ). Thoughtful. Think its unfair? Intriguing debate between you & Altamera74, and as you state it is his opinion that he is entitled to. Its become a trend now for premarital sex to happen but some girls don't approve it. for adults. The number is certainly not all that matters. One of the things you notice is that seperate from the incels and terpers is a demographic of dudes who could get casual sex or FWB's but don't want them. Buddy, I hate to tell you this, but you're a victim. It's a case of attraction. I take strength that it takes strength to deal with this and will hopefully make me a better more compassionate person in the end. life. This isnt about telling women it is good or ok to have a lot of sex partners. Life. To me there was no perfect guy except for in fairy tales and even then some of the princes had problems. Oh yes it does. I will respect your point of view, however, as a blogger of a highly controversal and relevant subject you should try to put yourself at our vantage point as well: in a time where mens rights are routinely violated by the judicial and family court system, A LOT (not all) divorces are initiated by women who have had affairs outside of the marriage. If she isnt what you need her to be currently, then of course keep it moving. Just doesnt have the same ring to it. And I ask you, why ride the Datson if youre looking for the Benz? I have a past love interest who you can say is the one I regret letting go in my life the most. Everyone has a right to their opinion and position. How you choose to look at her is an issue within yourself. WHO WANTS A WOMAN or a MAN you can not trust. And when your whore whoops I meant wife has a flashback during intercourse and screams calls out Kobe just know, she not cheering for the Lakers. What matters is probably different for you than for me. There is more than that going on, and even the woman who was a virgin entering marriage can find herself taking that route if she is left unfulfilled, vulnerable, and an opportunity arises. You know, there are a lot of people who always try to talk HIM out of existence maybe because they're really HOPING that HE doesn't exist. The number doesn't matter if you are a strong and confident alpha. Think about if we applied such a infantile The point is that not every woman (far from it) has a past full of sluttiness. I do not disagree with a lot you just said. If being old-fashioned for a woman means not being a slut, then old-fashioned will always be in style when men look for a mate to settle down with. If I were a man, I wouldnt want to be with a woman and everytime we leave the house fear bumping into one of her former sex partnerswhat does she have to give her husband if she has given it to 100 men? Would you REALLY want to buy that car after you heard that? I would say dont wait. And guess what, in case you hadnt noticed, men and women are different. The biggest problem I have with marrying who has had past sexual relationships, I waited for her, but she didnt wait for me. By your logic, nothing matters, and we should all turn our brains off. That should only matter! personal advocate now and then intervening for me. Not always, but often. Just look at them in the same light. N most of the time the dudes around you have the same type of woman. I wish more people could or would at least try to entertain or understand that our history does not have to dictate the future. Agrees. She has actually opened a dialogue with me about the fast girls. Altamera74 your position on this matter is very clear. Women whether it be in the past, or in modern times, created an image that they must live up to. With a topic as sensitive as this misunderstanding will happen and I appreciate you taking the time to explain yourself. This is how I feel. I'm trying to learn how to differentiate but it's fucking difficult man. Now does that change your perspective? Ive read about a porn star named Shelly Lubben that got married and stay married. They would always want to be with me even not wanting sex. Either way I think all women when put in the right relationship (and have taken time to heal & love themselves) are capable of operating as the best women they can be. You still come right? For instance a girl had sex with 20 men(but we dont know numbers) and they were all her boyfriends then in that case she wouldnt be a hoe. Men stand to lose their homes, assets and children even when they were the ones who honored their vows, to have and to hold, for better or worse. That didnt bother me, because I dont really care. So a young fertile woman was his best bet. Make Him Worship the Ground You Walk On! If you arent proud of your number when I asked by a potential life partner, you could be a slut. Denna-nenna-nent-nent-denna-nenna-nenna-nenna-Denna-nenna-nent-nent-denna-nenna-nenna-nenna Ma-Ma-Ma-My Sharona!. A woman did not write this, this was written by a man. It taints your bloodline. We all spout platitudes about what our beliefs are, and often, these can be idealized versions of who we wish we were. I hit the cutoff line at 5 MAX. sleep with more people towards the beginning of their dating/sexploration stage Im sorry you had to experience that. Or control and/or reduce the rejection that women are going to receive ? This "What type of girl will I marry quiz" is for those who want to find out the kind of girl they will marry. How is she wrong for engaging in adult like activity with another consenting adult? Some guys are really looking for that one who has waited. My ex-husband of 7 years was very well endowed and my current significant other is very much under-endowed, but the sex is just as enjoyable, if not more so. Awesome! Your comment finally got past moderation and was improved. But I had a young lady who was interested in me. You are also right about men having to work harder to get sex. I dont know why I feel hurtas i said, I believe people have the right to do what they want. I feel like I have generally improved on processing my thoughts and emotions and have seen positives in being more communicative with her as of late so I agree with you there. (one-nighters) out of the 19 people Ive had sex with that I didnt get to If she is a changed woman then she should present who she is and keep who she was to her damn self because IT DOES AND WILL ALWAYS MATTER when exposed. Very true, plenty of sluts attempt to hide their sluttiness through subterfuge, yet they inevitably give off tells. Hey knows how I am but still wants a relationship with me. o___O #dead Now those are some REAL double standards.com! Here is my conclusion i guess. We have all sinned and fallen short of the Glory of God. You dont get to judge. Please subscribe to our newsletter to get the latest news in your domain of interest. So many men end up with a woman they swear meets their standards in regards to their sexual past, but really she has done much more then he will ever know. I think the double standard is wrong, but the answer for me is to use the same standard for men as we currently use for women. The woman you marry is more modest because she knows her attributes are for your eyes only. The fact remains that the women with the lowest divorce rate in our liberal Western culture (not an alien culture or religion) are those who are more educated, higher income earners and marry later. The past is relevant to understanding who the person was and now is. 6. I just could never judge those who choose otherwise. It is expected of women to value themselves more highly then what we expect of men. The amount of people Ive had Speaking of lazy, I have looked over the study which you were apparently too lazy to just hyperlink to yourself after being asked to twice https://www.jstor.org/discover/10.2307/3600089?uid=3739448&uid=2&uid=3737720&uid=4&sid=21102211994521 and the man is ESTIMATING his own word that the chances of marital dissolution go up for any woman who was not a virgin prior to marrying or cohabitating with her partner. Hell to some if you arent a virgin you are a whore. Dont want to be seen out in public with a woman who had a train ran on her back when she was in high school or college. I do not agree that the more partners she has had the more likely the marriage will fail. But you are as a person. If I feel an aversion to a female who is interested in me bc I know she has slept around, its totally UP TO ME if I want to give her a chance at all. whether or not she has a(n) std(s)) is very important concerning the number of partners that shes had but if a woman tells a man that shes slept with 3 men and neglects to add the 0 at the end of that, shes being dishonest and that violates the principle of another post that you made (4 keys to starting and maintaining a successful relationship) previously. Altamera74, from a chicks point of view, you are going to end up a very sad and lonely man if you take that sort of attitude into your life when it comes to choosing a partner. Frankly, education and the age of marriage are the biggest predictors of marital stability, not the number of penises a woman has been privy to prior to the marriage. about their past. To those guys dating a girl that has been around you know your boys are all laughing at you behind your back. In this life, moral responsibility will offer you far, far more than even being able to regain what you may have lost, even following reconciliation. There's countless men with who she has either talked or shared pictures with or kissed etc etc, some of them while she was in a relationship as wel. while, recklessly, and if I crash? Is it the number of acts, the number of partners, or the types of acts? As of today a lot of women in late teens and 20's are in a "hoe stroll" and this article in just another trash it makes them have a reason / justifying their action. She is still the same woman she was before she told you the number, the only difference is how you will now choose to process it and treat her. I completely disagree. Have you heard of Google? Typically, people do not cheat simply because they are accustomed to being promiscuous (or have been in the past). Very good point, I may have to edit the post and throw that in somewhere : ). Though I do try to be aware of my market I promise this article is my honest genuine opinion lol. Some of them are alright but it seems like some sleazy fucking dudes thrown into the mix. If the actions belie the words, go with the actions. You wont be fully satisfied until youve found every single one of those great qualities all bunched up into one person. Im hoping this article opens some eyes and gets people to start looking at all of this differently. She kind of a whore an unpaid whore. Why can a man act one way, and be a male whore, but as soon as a women states anything in reference to men and sex, she is a whore? If she communicates she wants or needs something different than what you want, thats okay. A slut is a slut, and dont matter what gender. So before any of you judge anyone think about what they may have gone through or still going through. Women ( and some men ) get bored quickly these days so a lady. 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